Subject: What If Leaving Isn't Failure?

Here's what I hear in almost every discovery call:

"I think I want to leave, but..."

The "but" is never about logistics. It's about what leaving could mean.

If you leave consulting, does that prove:

• You couldn't cut it at the highest levels?

• Partnership was never really possible for you?

• You're not as capable as the people who stayed?

• You're giving up instead of pushing through?

For women who've spent 8-15 years proving they belong in consulting, walking away feels like admitting you didn't.

So you don't decide. You defer.

"I'll see how I feel after this promotion." "Maybe once I make Director it'll be different." "If I can just get through this year..."

But here's what I learned after 18 years at Deloitte, including 12 as a Director:

The people who left weren't the ones who couldn't make it. They were the ones who stopped spending their lives on something they no longer wanted.

The people who stayed weren't braver or more committed. They just genuinely wanted what partnership offered.

Real failure isn't leaving. Real failure is spending another 2-5 years optimizing your life around a goal you're not sure you want - just to avoid feeling like you quit.

You end up proving you could have done it, at the cost of years you can't get back.

And I get it. The fear of looking like you couldn't hack it is real. But walking away from something that's wrong for you isn't failure. Staying because you're afraid of what leaving means keeps you stuck.

If you've been in this loop - proving yourself toward something you're increasingly unsure you want - we should talk.

I help senior women in consulting get clear on whether to stay, step off temporarily, or leave entirely. Not by gathering more information, but by building the framework that actually lets you decide.

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